Social Media Doesn’t Really Matter

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Recently, I unfollowed someone on twitter. It was admittedly a dumb, childish thing to do in the heat of the moment. Even worse, it set off a chain of events that made everyone involved look stupid (some more than others.)

And that’s gotten me thinking a lot about social media and it’s roll and influence in our lives.

I’ve come to the conclusion that we take it way too seriously and have allowed it to dictate how we interact online. Instead of being ourselves we’ve become consumed with what everyone else it going to think about every post, image, retweet, or story we post. We track who’s followed and unfollowed us and become obsessed with why that happened.

This isn’t anything new. Social media has been used by all of us to share the best parts of our lives since the beginning. No one wants to share the low points. Shitty moments suck enough as it is, no need to publicize it.

But wasn’t social media meant to connect us, bring us closer and make us all collectively better?

Unfortunately, like most good things, we’ve managed to find a way to ruin things.

Which is why I’ve started caring less about social media (holy shit, I think I’m officially just old).

I used to care about having a perfectly curated Instagram feed and would go months without posting because I had nothing “cool” to share. I used to include as many hashtags as allowed per caption because if you don’t hashtag does your post even exist? I would check the Facebook newsfeed and twitter timeline incessantly because “what if I miss something?” Social media became a source of stress and I really don’t need more of that in my life.

Now, my IG posts usually don’t even have a caption, I haven’t checked my personal Facebook in months (I still need to login in because work, but I skip right through to business manager), and I basically treat Twitter as a breaking news service. Don’t get me wrong, I still want a certain aesthetic, I use filters, and I don’t share everything, but I honestly find myself caring less and less about what anyone else thinks about what I share.

It’s not always easy, but trust me, at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter.

 

Streaks

I’d like to start streaks for a bunch of things. 

Flossing.

Reading.

Going to bed before midnight.

Exercising daily. 

The list could go on and on, but I’ll focus on just on for right now: 

Starting a streak of daily writing on this weblog. (Again) 

The Danger of “Not Good Enough”

During my current job search, two things have become very evident: 1. No one really knows what a perfect candidate is because they don't know what they want/need, and 2. there's an immense premium on finding someone that will do all the possible work for the cheapest price possible.

And that's why this Seth Godin blog post is too good not to share.

That’s how we choose who to work with.

We want someone who’s good at their job. And the ones we pass up are usually labeled as, “not good enough.” And we label ourselves as well. “I’d like to do that sort of work, but I’m not good enough.”

This is obviously a trap.

In almost every line of work, the truthful sentence is, “not good enough yet.”

Of course, at least once you wrote a great line of code or crafted a good headline. At least once you made a good diagnosis or calmed a patient. At least once you did something extraordinary. So it’s not that you can’t do it.

It might be that you don’t care enough to try.

“I’d like to hire that programmer, but he doesn’t care enough to get really good at his craft.” That’s certainly more true than, “He’s never going to be good at programming, because his DNA doesn’t match the DNA of a good coder.”

It’s true that you’re not good enough yet. None of us are. But if you commit to trying hard enough and long enough, you’ll get better.

 

 

Interviews

Every time I do an interview I feel like a complete idiot that has no idea what he’s talking about. I feel like an imposter that doesn’t know what he’s talking about and is making everything up. I had a phone interview today for a SEM/SEO manager position that I think would have been a good fit given it’s ability to be remote, it’s work i enjoy doing and i think the pay would be decent. And I felt like a deer in headlights. I don’t know why i have such an issue explaining myself. I know I’m not the most knowledgable, but i do think i know a bit of what I’m talking about. Maybe it’s intimidation or imposter syndrome? I don’t know.

The other part that bothers me is that, like a friend said to me, I seem to attract the weirdest jobs/job owners. A firm i interviewed with wants to set up a second interview, but they continue to try and reschedule semi-last minute, which bothers me. I know i prefer smaller businesses because they tend to give more freedom and the more abilities to try new things and experiment. But they also end up with the most frustrating owners. I get that money is tight when it comes to running a small business, but it’s frustrating when your time isn’t given the respect and courtesy you’re expected to give.

I want to attract the type of job that going to pay well, give me some freedom, and make me feel accomplished or satisfied.

Is that asking too much?

If I *Was* Using iOS 12

If I *was* using iOS 12, I *would* say it feels a lot more refined and less buggy than iOS 11 ever has.

If I *was* using iOS 12, I *would* say it certainly feels a lot faster than iOS 11.

If I *was* using iOS 12, I *would* say I have no idea why the Stocks app is all of sudden getting a ton of attention.

If I *was* using iOS 12, I *would* say it's nice to see Apple finally addressing notifications. Although, I *would* also say they still have a lot of work to do.

If I *was* using iOS 12, I *would* say Memoji is as fun as Animoji was, but it still won't be more than a novelty.

If I *had* used iOS 12, these *would be* a few of the first impressions I *would* have. 

Affirmations

Affirmations.

They're easy to create and recite. They can be unlimited and cover a variety of topics. The concept is easy and makes sense.

The hard part is actually believing them. 

Because no matter how many times or how long you say them, until you believe them, they can't help you.

Tax Day

 

Today is tax day here in the United States.

Ironically enough, the IRS is experiencing server issues making it difficut for people to electronically file their taxes.

I filed last night, so thankfully the Internal Revenue Service had no difficulty taking my payment.

Anyways, tax day.

It's a day I tend to loath. Mostly because I always end up owing the government money. In more than 10 years of paying my taxes, I have yet to receive a refund. It also forces me to take stock of my finances. Which is just about the worst thing you could make me do.

I've never really talked about my finances publicly. It's pretty embarassing. Mostly, because I don't practice what I preach. I know what to do. I know why I should it. I just don't. And it's all really been catching up to me recently.

Which sucks, because I've finally reached the point in my life where I would actually like to do things like start a family, buy a home, take vacations. You know, things that cost money.